I once forgot to wish my father for Father’s Day. Now this was a man who barely remembered my birthday. So, you can only imagine my surprise AND shock on receiving a call from a very miffed father who was upset because I hadn’t remembered to wish him for Father’s Day.
In hindsight, the older, wiser me can see how and why he was upset. Back then, I was just stunned into silence.
So, why exactly was my father upset? Why was someone who seemingly did not celebrate birthdays feel the need to be acknowledged on this particular day? Let’s take a moment to contemplate…
I think, this is what celebrating particular days does for us. It helps us to acknowledge ourselves or someone else in our life. It helps us to appreciate each other. In our absolutely and undoubtedly busy lives, we forget to value ourselves and our people. Celebrating a day brings back that value, for however brief a time. It helps us to appreciate something or someone. It brings gratitude to the forefront. It gives you an occasion, a kind of purpose to acknowledge and celebrate either yourself or someone else in your life.
Therefore, what can celebrating certain days mean for your mental health?
- Feeling valued
- Gratitude for someone/something
- Feeling loved and accepted
- Feeling important (for our person or inherently)
- Feeling of worth
- Receiving gifts (material or otherwise) brings in an element of feeling cherished
Now you may ask me, are we not supposed to feel these feelings anyway? Why does a particular day have to do this for us? And I will say, I agree with you 100%. However, our daily hustle-bustle does not involve feeling these feelings. It focuses on other aspects like making money, being a “good” parent, being a “good” student or employee or doing a great job at any other role that we may have taken on. We take for granted our value, love and acceptance and therefore, we also take for granted our loved ones. For this reason, we had to come up with certain days to celebrate ourselves and our loved ones; to remind ourselves for our own value and the value of the people in our lives.
And is that really so irksome, I ask you?
This article is written by Ms. Maitreyi Nigwekar, a therapist and integral part of Team Adveka.